What I learned by quitting my dream job

If you know me even a little bit, you will know that my middle name is dementia. My life has been defined by this dreaded and dreadful condition. As a teenager, I was a young carer to my mom who lived and died of Young Onset Alzheimer’s in her 40s. Everything I did from then on for the next decade was either to cope with the onslaught and aftermath or merely survive. When I finally got myself together, I dreamed only of making a difference to the lives of others living specifically with Young Onset Dementia. And I did just that for a year in 2012 as an almost full-time volunteer at the Alzheimer Association in Chicago and then as a Social Worker at the Alzheimer Society of Toronto from June 2015 to December 2017. I did some exceptional work and learned some invaluable lessons. I had started out wanting to support people living with dementia and their families, but I walked away forever changed by them.

It took me six long months to actually put in my resignation. After all, how could it be that I wanted to leave? I loved my job. But having done a lot of work through therapy on myself, I have learned to trust my gut. It was demanding that I move on. So I did. My last week at work, I was inundated with calls, emails, cards, hugs, coffees and lunches from colleagues, clients, professional contacts. A part of me was questioning my decision, but the other part kept saying, “That’s the way to leave…on a high!”

So…here I am 3 months after I have quit. I am at the beginning of a new journey – setting up my own business as a private practice therapist. I can tell you I have not one ounce of regret. Here is what I learned about myself:


  • I have evolved. So have my dreams.
  • I want to be a learner for life.
  • I will always make space. Even if it means giving up something good.
  • Time is money. I will own my time.
  • I am worth more than the money I make.
  • I am willing to try new things, even if it means I fail.
  • I am more than one thing at any given moment.
  • No one is allowed to tell me how to feel about myself.
  • My work does not define me.
  • I want to invest in me doing things I love and being with people I love.
  • If I can give up the one thing I’ve always wanted, I can live without anything.
  • My ambition now is to lose typical ambition.
  • I am more than the pain I went through.

I think the last learning has been a long time coming. Had I not had the opportunity to work in my dream job, I would still be empty. Now that I have given back to the cause that has shaped me allowed me to become whole, I can move on.

In the last 3 months, I have done a lot of fun things like taking vacations and spending time with people I love and reading all night. And I have done a lot of administrative things like landing two amazing part-time gigs and setting up my practice.

However, the most important thing I have done is go to a 11.5 day silent residential meditation retreat and develop a daily meditation practice that is non-guided. I think the biggest act of self-love is to love myself even if I will never be all the things I once dreamed of. This is exceptionally hard for I am a typical type A personality who is intelligent, driven and extremely competitive.

Don’t get me wrong. I will work. I will work hard to have my practice flourish. But I no longer feel or want the pressure to be the most visible dementia warrior. I have let go of my pain identity.

I am free.

Published by Ekta

I am constantly evolving and it is hard for me to put my life and writing in words. When I look back at my posts, I am amazed and humbled at all that has happened and excited about where I am at and what the future holds for me. I am the best version of myself when I write.

3 thoughts on “What I learned by quitting my dream job

  1. Well done. I am thrilled and waiting to see what beautiful things you are gonna bring in other’s, your’s and our life thorough your passion in your work. Wishing you the best always!

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